THE BACHELORHOOD according to Melwyn

SCAPEGOATING

We all live in glass houses,

And should never attempt to throw a stone;

No point blaming others,

The fault is always your own.

The easiest way to deal with failure or try and gain success is scapegoating. Our success is our own and the failure is owing to someone else. But blaming others for our problems and misgivings is unjust, cruel and unfair to others and to ourselves.

You see it all around you. Parents who blame the children for failed marriages, children who blame parents for their problems and failures. Then you also find bosses who blame their subordinates and subordinates who denunciate their superiors.

The biggest damage scapegoating does is to our soul and to our life, not to others. Do not look for a scapegoat to blame all your problems and failures on. Instead look inward, find out what is the cause of the problem, acknowledge your failures, seek help and ask for forgiveness. 

THE BACHELORHOOD according to Melwyn

Daily Tips - Key Place

A Key Place

How to achieve peace of mind?

It is a fact that we all feel a greater sense of calm and decreased frustration when we feel in control of the smaller things in life like keys, remote’s, spoons, forks etc. Therefore is is necessary to assign a place for all items and keep them in its place. 

A place for everything and everything in it's place. 

THE BACHELORHOOD according to Melwyn

THE BACHELORHOOD according to Melwyn

The Silver Lining

One time, a young man who attended a local church heard that the husband of one of their ushers recently died.

He decided to visit the widow in their hope. He was even practicing the words he will tell her once she opens the door. 

To his surprise, the widow was in good spirits. She even offered tea and biscuits.
He asked the widow why she was such in a good mood considering that her husband has just died. 

She replied, “Yes. I am saddened. But I am also joyful because my husband is with the Lord.
The Lord will take care of me. I do not have to worry about anything. 

Instead of being the one to encourage the widow, the young man left the house encouraged. Consider it a change of roles. The widow overcame her depression not through therapy or a self-help book. It was because she meditated of the Word of God.